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Pride Month: Top Ten LGBT Characters

For the second(ish) week of Pride Month I will be counting down my top ten LGBT characters. The conditions for this top ten list is that I will only select one lgbt character per book/show/franchise because I could easily fill up the list with just characters from one franchise, this doesn’t that mean that a LGBT couple can’t share a spot on the list though, and finally the character must be a hero/protagonist to the story. This is a personal top ten list, if your favorite LGBT character did not make the list I am sorry, feel free to add your favorite  characters though in the comments.

In  no particular order, here is my top ten list of LGBT characters. Caution there are some spoilers in this top ten list. The links go to Amazon, in case you want more information or to

10. Yukito/Toya from CardCaptor Sakura -I like  this particular manga because I learned to draw specifically from reading this alone so it has a special spot in my heart. It’s a very soft, light hearted story about a magical girl and her adventures retrieving the mystical Clow Cards and becoming their master. I picked Yukito and his eventual partner Toya because they were my first exposure to an lgbt couple, post realizing and accepting that I was gay. It’s kind of an interesting story on how Yukito falls in love with Toya and how his feelings for him kind of screw around with who he was destined to fall in love with (Sakura initionally has a crush on Yukito who is best friend’s with Sakura’s older brother Toya) Rather than concentrate on the conflict of sexuality and possible incompatibility between the two (this IS a comic aimed for children after all) the drama concentrates more on Yukito getting bursts of amnesia due to magic (it’s a complicated story). Still the two do become a couple and are living happily in the sequel manga still…so far.

9. Haruka Tenoh aka Sailor Uranus and Michiru Kaioh aka Sailor Neptune from Pretty Guardian Sailor Moon-I’m going to be honest and say my reason for having couples share a spot is because of Haruka and Michiru from Sailor Moon.  they are a couple who are soldiers who protected the Moon Kingdom from evils outside the Moon Kingdom. Haruka has many strong masculine qualities and is even drawn to resemble a boy in some of the official artwork by Naoko Takuichi; in addition Haruka assumes the leader role for the Outer Guardians.

Michiru admittingly is a flat character; while she is an elegant young woman with a higher level of maturity compared to other girls her age in addition to being an expert musician with the violin and cello, she really doesn’t do much outside of being Haruka’s girlfriend (so long as you don’t say shit about her lipstick). In Sailor Moon Crystal, Michiru provides some exposition, but no further characterization beyond that. In the nineties anime though, she is SALTY. She delivers the best burns and sass all with a calm happy smile on her face.

Together they’re both skilled fighters and are willing to do what is needed to save the day, but do eventually (and happily) give into the idealist views of Usagi.

I should also mention that in the american late 90’s/early00’s dub of Sailor Moon S the couple’s relationship was changed from romantic to familial (they were cousins). Most fans (not including me) saw right through it. In the new VIZ Media Dub Haruka and Michiru will continue to be in a romantic relationship which goes to show how far things have come since the initial airing of Sailor Moon in the United States.  

8. Xandir from Drawn Together – Drawn Together is possibly one of the most horrible cartoons to ever be animated, aired, and viewed. It is not bad, but it provides a near accurate form of what I find hilarious (I’m going to hell…). However, with Drawn Together we also got Xandir, the token gay housemate. It was interesting that Comedy Central requested that the character be recast from initial voice actor Nat Faxon (who provided a gay lisp for the character) to openly gay actor Jack Plotnick. While there is a plethora of humor in relation to Xandir being gay that some may find offensive (look the whole show is offensive, it did air on Comedy Central after all), Xandir was more or less treated as a plain character with the exception of three episodes. None of the gay jokes were too mean spirited and he received his fair share of black comedy and slapstick humor along with the other characters.

8. Dumbledore from the Harry Potter series-Dumbledore is kind of interesting character in that no one ever realized he was gay and J.K. Rowling had to out him. And how did fans react to him being gay? With applause, love, and joy! While his sexuality never plays a major role in the current timeline of the series (sort of), he was a powerful and heavily respected wizard who Voldemort feared. He was also the character that understood love very well; not love in the romantic sense, but parental, familial, and unconditional love.

Perhaps because of his sexuality and a mistake he made concerning romantic love Dumbledore has a better understanding of the emotion and can help Harry and his friends out more on their magical adventures.

6. Number Six from Battlestar Galactica -Number Six is our first bisexual character on the list. Despite intentionally being a villain in the Number Six series Cylon (I have a thing for long complicated stories) grow thanks to the efforts and actions of a handful of Number Six’s. To clarify there are three types of Cylons; Space ship, Cylon Centurions, and humanoid Cylons. There are twelve humanoid Cylon models with the Number 6 type being the only ones not to get a name. One of the main Six’s is Caprica Six, the woman who caused the fall of the Twelve planets. She grows from there, talks to an angel/messenger and begins to understand what’s going on around her.

She has a strong faith and belief in God and from this begins to question the motives of the other cylons and if what they are doing is truly the will of God and if the act of mass genocide was truly necessary. She grows from her experiences and even convinces the other Six’s and some other cylons to switch sides and aid the fleeing humans in the search for Earth.

5. Sara Lance from DC’s Legends of Tomorrow- Sara Lance is a badass. She went from typical spoiled teenager to trained assassin to be feared within five years of her life. During this five year time period she had time to discover that she liked girls. She died in name, then literally died for real and came back to life, thanks to the Lazarus pit. She loves her family and now travels through time and space womanizing ladies she’s interested in and kicking ass and taking names. She’s essentially a female version of your “guy” character who goes around having one night stands and sweeping women off their feet instead of sweeping the floor (which she incidentally does with some of the men she beats up.)

She has depth though, she loves her family and friends and is willing to have an emotional heart to heart conversation when she feels it’s necessary.

4. Sophia Burset from Orange is the New Black- In a cast filled with female characters who are straight, lesbian, bi, curious, bored, over the need for sex, and religiously nutty there is Sophia Burset; a transgender woman in a woman’s correctional facility. She was a normal man who realized that she’s not a man.

She’s social, sassy, saved a man’s life, and is even best friends with a nun despite the moral issue that should exist between the two. The great thing about this character is that she is played by transgender actress Lavern Cox adding to the representation of the minority. Fun fact: she came to my Alma Matter earlier this year and gave a talk and presentation. 

3. Captain Jack Harkness of Doctor Who and Torchwood-Back in 2005 when Doctor Who came back we had a character introduced named Jack Harkness from a time period where sexuality…became very strange. While not strictly gay, Captain Jack evolved from a coward con artist to a heroic figure forced to live with tough sacrifices and decisions as a member of Torchwood.

Despite the character being bisexual/omnisexual Captain Jack is known to primarily have relationships with other male characters treating the relationships with normality. Even with his one night stands the encounters are treated the norm to him and to the audience of Torchwood.

Despite although being damaged and being forced to make horrible decisions as the leader of Torchwood Three, Captain Jack is still a fun character and I would love for John Barrowman to return to Doctor Who soon as the character.

2. Korra and Asami from Avatar the Legend of Korra-in the winter of 2014 something shocking and beautiful happened. For years many fans of Avatar the Legend of Korra had shipped the characters Korra and Asami together. When season 3 came along there were scenes that some fans felt could be interpreted as romantic interest between the two characters, but felt such a thing could not happen due to the series being on Nickelodeon.

Then in the series finale, Korra and Asami gazed lovingly into each other’s eyes as they prepared to walk into the spirit world for a vacation from all the crazy events happening in their lives. It was confirmed by the creators of Legend of Korra that yes Korra and Asami are a couple and that the executives at Nickelodeon were actually thrilled and supportive of the idea that the two characters were an official couple.

Before going onto the Number 1 spot, here are some honorable mentions:

  • The cast of Steven Universe (particularly Pearl)
  • Yuri and Victor from Yuri on Ice
  • Usagi Tsukino of Sailor Moon (she’s kind of bi, but let’s be honest she loves Mamaru the most)
  • Alex Danvers of Supergirl
  • All of the LGBT characters on Glee (NEARLY TEN LGBT characters on a show that wasn’t aimed for an LGBT audience alone)

And finally:

  1. Willow Rosenberg from Buffy the Vampire Slayer-All of the following characters are great in their own ways, but for a while it was Willow from Buffy the Vampire Slayer who was sort of the main lgbt character to relate to within prime time television aimed towards teenagers. She started out as a shy girl who was bullied, gained self confidence, make overs, and discovered more and more about herself. Things were rough when she intentionally came out, but her friends still loved her and accepted her and eventually she and Terra became beloved characters to the franchise who many lgbt youth look up to. 

And that is my Top Ten LGBT characters list, if you didn’t see any of your favorite LGBT characters or have any to suggest please do so in the comments. Special thanks to my friend Sam from Sam’s Little Corner who helped with proofreading and editing this blog post.

Pride Month: Yuri On Ice

It is LGBT Pride Month, and each week I will have discussions about LGBT media through entertainment. This week’s topic is the anime Yuri on Ice. Yuri on Ice is a figure skating themed sports anime that ran from October 6th 2016 to December 22nd 2016. The story follows Yuri Katsuki who after performing poorly in a national figure skating competition as a result of mourning the loss of his pet dog and performance anxiety. Despite his intentions to retire from figure skating Yuri’s idol Victor Nikiforof approaches him stating he will coach Yuri and turn him into a figure skating legend (completely naked when doing so too).

During the series Yuri grows in both his abilities as a figure skater, and a person as he slowly grows closer to Victor having his feelings towards Victor evolve from a crush/admiration to genuine friendship eventually leading both of them authentically falling in love with each other.

Watching this anime was a very wonderful for me, unfortunately I did not watch the anime as episodes premiered on Crunchyroll due to being unaware of it at the time, but a few months ago I watched and loved every moment of it. Even with the relationship between Yuri and Victor aside the story is very interesting and well told with Yuri frequently questioning if he should continue to be a figure skater despite gaining a considerable amount of skill with Victor as his coach.

The scenes where Yuri and the other skaters perform and compete are very intense and pulled me (and probably other viewers) closer to their tv’s and computer screens with heartbeats intensified. Despite the series being animated I did feel nervous watching Yuri and his rivals skate cringing when the performers had flaws in their routines. In addition to these routines sympathy and backstory is given to each character that aren’t Yuri, Victor, or Yurio (a third protagonist that I’m ignoring because I want to concentrate on Yuri and Victor) in the series. I consider the fact that all of the following was accomplished in the anime within twelve episodes very impressive.

Besides figure skating the main part of the story is the relationship between Yuri and Victor. Despite the original intentions of writer Mitsuro Kubo of having the relationship between the two be one of coach and student where at the end of the anime Yuri would retire so Victor could return to skating and the two could be separated once again, the two fell in love. I truly enjoyed seeing the two begin to synchronize their affection for each other, especially after later episodes hint that Victor was attracted to Yuri and chose to become his coach based on these feelings and emotions alone.

The voice acting in both Japanese and English are very good with parts of the Japanese dub giving the possibility that the voice actors were indeed crying while recording and some parts of the story possibly improved upon with the English adaption. The art and animation can be a little weird at times, but the figure skating scenes are amazing. The music compliments the skating scenes very well, and I rather like that Yuri and his friends tend to be social media junkies at times.

There is some criticism over the fact that there are no homophobic characters in the series despite two other figure skaters being hinted at Christian faith. Although I do understand the criticism over the fact that Yuri On Ice appears to be a world with no homophobia for Yuri and Victor to encounter (Victor is from Russia as well), I prefer the anime to be this way. If said two minor characters are indeed of Christian faith, then that makes things better in my opinion since at this current time Christianity is being hijacked by a bunch of assholes that are making all of us look like monsters that want to lynch anyone who disagrees with them. In my own opinion I think the show could be a form of escapism and provide an example of a happy gay relationship for lgbt viewers.

I highly recommend this anime to both hardcore and casual anime fans and give Yuri On Ice four out of five Katsu Pirozhki buns. Yuri On Ice is produced by MAPPA studio and has been dubbed in English by Funimation and is available on the Funimation website and for free on the Crunchyroll website.

 

My Problem With “Coming Out” Stories

I’ve said many times that I am not fond of coming out stories. They aren’t bad stories, and when I was younger I read a few of them and enjoyed them. I understand why lgbt youth would like these stories because it gives them something to relate to. Having a secret that must be kept out of fear of alienation from loved ones and peers is a big deal and can end with family and loved ones accepting you as you are, learning to love your difference, or downright throwing you out of the house.

Good Golly, This Shit Again?

It makes sense to me that whenever the main protagonist in mainstream media is gay that this is the primary conflict of the story since it allows readers/watchers who aren’t part of the lgbt community to get an idea of what it is like to be in the shoes of someone who isn’t straight.

However this brings the problem that I have mentioned and danced around in many blog posts/essays. It becomes a gimmick; while lgbt fiction and culture can still have a coming out part of a story, it wouldn’t take up the whole story or series. It would be one portion the protagonists life, then the protagonist will move on and do other things. In mainstream media outside of the lgbt category this is not the case.

An example I will use is the movie Gay Best Friend; I watched it on Netflix, thought it was hilarious, and I was pleased that the movie went deeper than what I expected out of a teen comedy. There was still the main conflict of coming out of the closet and how that action had waves of chain reactions because the main protagonist was accidentally and unwillingly outed as gay. Although the main protagonist does claim get over the fact his peers know he is gay, it is the primary source of conflict between him and those responsible for his outing towards the end of the second act and even after is only fully resolved at the end of the film.

The Proper Way to Handle a Coming out Story (your mileage may vary)

I feel this type of story works out better on tv rather than movies or books; my two main examples will be the shows Ugly Betty and Glee. On Ugly Betty there were quite a few lgbt characters on the show; Marc St.James, Justin Suarez, Alexis Mead (behold a trans character no one made a big deal about in the year 2006!), and a few more. At the time of it’s premier only Marc and his love interests could officially be slated as gay since it was still a taboo for someone as young as Justin’s character to be officially stated as gay so the topic of his sexuality was danced around, but never confirmed until season 4. My guess is since Justin was in highschool things became more fair game for the character.

At first Justin states he isn’t gay with Marc (he’s kind of his mentor and a close friend despite being much older than Justin) understanding Justin’s situation and being patient with Justin as he talked about his feelings towards both genders and his friendships with characters that are barely ever mentioned. When it was announced Ugly Betty was cancelled it was pretty obvious the writers decided to stop giving shits about people in the audience getting offended and had Justin make out with a boy. Bonus points for everyone in Justin’s family knowing the whole time and very excitedly willingly to throw him a coming out party (even Marc is happy to see the Suarez family is so loving of Justin and proud of him despite being pissed off with them more or less wanting Justin to confirm his sexuality).

With Glee, we had Kurt, goodness he is gayer than Christmas. He was sarcastic, wore clothes that ranged from cool to ‘wha’ regularly and had an easier time “coming out” on television thanks to Ugly Betty. While Glee did premier during the last season of Ugly Betty, the later show did lay some groundwork that would make things Glee did easier to do on tv (do you REALLY think Glee would/could have had Kurt and Blaine’s intense makeout session had Justin and Austin not had theirs one year before?)

I admit there were times I found Kurt very annoying primarily because at the start of the show he was more or less the gay stereotype that viewers are supposed to see and say “oh, they’re gay! I didn’t have to think about it.” His coming out to his dad in the first season was very touching though. With Kurt’s dad behaving very loving unconditionally towards his son from that point onward to the end of the series even sticking up for Kurt when Kurt was doing something inappropriate (not cool pushing yourself on Finn when he has politely stated he is not gay and not interested countless times, thank goodness that gets addressed too.)

Like in Gay Best Friend there are waves of side affects that result in Kurt coming out of the closet that lead to bullying, harassment, and other characters growing and developing complete with Kurt more or less ditching the gay stereotype he started out as by the end of the series.

There’s also the character Santana’s own coming out story that started out as a throwaway gag of her having sex with her best friend. Not much detail is given concerning how her parents react outside of “yeah, they’re cool with it,” but she was outed by accident and things more or less go ok for her outside of her grandmother having very strict religious beliefs that “girls belong with boys, not other girls”.

I’d like to make special mention to the ABC Family show Greek; I didn’t see much of it (I just didn’t care to watch it) but there was a gay character with no gay traits who did have a very well handled coming out arc and developed past coming out from that point on. Feel free to correct me on this internet.

Other Media

My reasoning for saying television is the best way to have a coming out story is because it allows the character to stay in main focus and have the coming out arc then move past said arc and grow as a character without said conflict being the whole purpose of the character.

While this is possible in books, I have read few mainstream books where the main protagonist is gay, comes out, and does something other than come out as gay. Movies are even harder because more than likely you only have ninety to a hundred and twenty minutes of story to go through and having the protagonist “come out” can take up more time than expected with the possibility that said action can become the main conflict of a movie.

I’ve reviewed the books The Gay Teen’s Guide to Defeating a Siren and Will Grayson Will Grayson and I was very happy with how it was handled. In Will Grayson Will Grayson ‘coming out’ as an arc is treated like taking off a bandaid, quick. It allowed Will to move beyond that conflict and for other conflicts to be explored concerning love and relationships in terms of romance, friendship, and agape.

As I said in my review of The Gay Teen’s Guide to Defeating a Siren after the main character is outed as gay and goes to sanctuary prep and neat shenanigans happen from that point on. Although I dreaded the coming out portion it was there as the main plot point to set the story in motion and yes echos are felt from the protagonist coming out as gay.

 

If You’re so Knowledgeable then Why Don’t YOU do a Coming Out Story?

I have said previously that the book I am working on right now will not have a coming out plot. In the process of writing this blog post I have realized that really is an asshole thing of me to say I won’t do a coming out story. No I won’t add a coming out part to the story I am working on, but that doesn’t mean I will never do a coming out story.

Maybe later on I will find a way for myself to write a story where coming out is just one event in a protagonist’s tale and move on past it with the character able to grow beyond that event.

Once again please look up and purchase The Gay Teen’s Guide to Defeating a Siren, it is a great story, I have met the author and have had fun facebook conversations with him.

Gay and Christian

Trey Pearson, Christian rock singer for the band Every Day Sunday recently came out as gay. I haven’t ever listened to the band and probably won’t care to (I think my Jesus freak days are done,) but hearing the news that a member of a successful group was gay just caught my attention.

We’re a minority, lgbt christians, I can’t speak for all the other stories because I didn’t experience them first hand and I have no right to say what others have gone through. I don’t know what Trey Pearson went through growing up, I only have my own experiences.

These are also personal experiences that I have mostly chosen to keep off the internet, but I will post a little blog about it. I won’t talk about my actual upbringing or how my parents reacted concerning it and my religion (shockingly nothing negative though), I won’t talk about any actual religious stuff. If you want a blog post about homosexuality and the Bible you can go google another blog with that topic. My own spiritual experiences are also off limits.

Wait, Gay and Christian?

These are the usual questions that arose when I revealed I was gay and catholic; wait, aren’t you scared you’re going to hell for being gay? Are you ever going to get married? Are you ever going to have sex? Don’t you know you’ll be happier if you just leave the church? My usual answers are no, not sure (as of June 2015 I hope to though), that’s none of your business, and you don’t seem to be thrilled with life either.

In real life I choose to be fairly subtle about my sexuality because 1. I desire to be judged based on the kind of person I am and 2. It’s kind of fun to screw with the heads of people who don’t realize it off the bat. However in the days that I was more religious I chose not to speak of my sexuality too much because I wanted to keep my love life private, a right every person has. It wasn’t out of shame, but because I feel some things in life should be private.

Concerning that period of time and when I think about it it’s pretty obvious who would have stayed my friend had I been open about what I am and who would have been ready to throw stones at me. I keep in contact with the former and prefer not to be in contact with the later.

I also never chose to come out to any religious group because I never wanted to be the token gay, or the face of Christians who happen to be gay. I wanted to be treated as equally as everyone else. The thought of being the face of something terrifies the shit out of me; it means I have to constantly be on good behavior, constantly be the bigger person,  and any time I fucked up it looks bad on a whole group of people. It’s a cowardly decision I’m aware, but becoming the face of something would have meant losing something I very much desire to keep private in my life.

As of this current time (2016) my religious beliefs have been moved over to my private life too. Also not out of shame (yes there has been struggle the past few years because life is never easy), but out of the same reason I keep my love life private, because I want it to be private and I have the right to that privacy. Yes there are alot of things I don’t agree with the church about and many people will say I don’t deserve to say I’m catholic based on it. My usual response to that is “k thanks, bye.”

The C and A

The  first and sole relationship I’ve ever had was with an atheist. I’m still friends with him, I still love him. I’ve looked up to him since I was sixteen hoping I would grow up to be like him as an adult as someone as confident and comfortable with his sexuality as he was. He is also a very loving individual, very stressed, but very loving.

I chose to keep my relationship with him private because it was long distance and based of that readers should be able to gather enough. There were a few friends I told of it, some of them were shocked that I talked to atheists and were convinced I’d be led away from God. Other said I needed to convert him to the love of God so he wouldn’t go to hell.

When the subject of God came up, they weren’t always pleasant and I was defensive about the situation and said things I really regret now as an older adult. However, from this man that I probably admire a little too much I feel I learned to be a more loving person and gained the ability to love a little more unconditionally (ok maybe not completely unconditionally, there’s alot of idiots in my life).

The reason he’s my sole relationship so far is because a relationship just isn’t on my priority list right now. I also date based off intuition and chemistry and I don’t have much of my type available at this time.

Other lgbtq Christians?

I haven’t met too many, I’ve met a few, they’re nice people, but there’s never a balance I feel comfortable with concerning religious life and sexuality. My gaydar detects who’s gay in a group fairly accurately. I never act on it because in most of those situations the individual has/is in the closet. There is nothing wrong with being in the closet if you are scared/desire not to come out (so long as you don’t bash anyone out of the closet).

I’ve gone to gay christian dating sites, I had a good laugh after thirty minutes of going through profiles and deleted mine. Nothing against those gentlemen, but I can’t see myself with any of them.

Has it Ever Been a Problem? (Just End the Damn Blog Post Already)

I can understand if someone were concerned for my mental health concerning this topic. As I said before I can’t speak for anyone else’s experiences, but I can understand resentment or a dislike of the religion. Even for those who are open about their religion and sexuality there are still some delicate places. For one thing it’s a little hard to date and be abstinent since it’s nearly always a deal breaker from my own experience. No idea why straight couples don’t get shamed as much concerning the topic (unless one of them ends up pregnant…).

I never really did ever think I was going to hell or feared what God would think of me since God is omnipresent. I was raised in a very loving family and I’m grateful for it. Do I feel like I’m getting the short end of alot of sticks? HELL YEAH! But I can be very hopeful for a nice future. To finish things up, here’s a song I could always relate to and always shared without revealing that it’s a christian song (seriously why do we always have to label things these days?)

 

 

 

Queer 26

If you had told me in my first instances of attraction to someone of the same gender that I would be fully comfortable with me orientation by my midtwenties I would have given a very confused look since I was three and I had just discovered David Yost as Billy the blue power ranger.

I should backtrack though; I have an internet friend who’s and artist that I chat/have spats with on a regular basis. The sources of spats being him thinking that I should stay single because God wants me to, and me saying he and the church is full of shit in that aspect, but that’s a blog post for another day. We talk about writing and one day he asked “why are so many of your characters LGBT?” I shrugged and said it just comes natural and that I’m not just throwing it out there to be out there. I don’t think he believes me, and I’m convinced there is a voice in my subconscious that doesn’t believe me either.

My Mundane Bitching

There was an instance shortly after gay marriage became legal where he was at an art show not too far from a gay pride parade and how he felt uncomfortable looking at paintings next to a shirtless man wearing a kilt with pierced nipples. He told me that with the legalization of gay marriage that he hoped the “pride parade fad” would die down. Even though I’m not fond of the gay stereotype it was at that moment I prayed to God that the pride parade would go on forever.

Despite all these happy things I’m not a happy person under the LGBT population; aside from typical life issues there are still things that bother me. Why is there still a LGBT genre on Netflix and Hulu? Why is the  token gay person still usually a stereotype with fancy clothing, feminine voice, and obsessed with musicals (on US television anyways)? Why do all coming out stories that are successful and more sympathetic about lesbians rather than gay men? Why are most gay stories instantly associated with coming out and gayngst? WHy were most of the badass gay characters lesbians? Why do gay shows/movies have to be so damn raunchy? When will I get Will & Grace on Netflix? There is an argument that not all gay shows are raunchy such as Glee and The New Normal. I can accept that, but both shows still have stereotypical gay men as the primary cast. I will give credit to Modern Family about having a gay couple that isn’t stereotypical though. I will also give special mention to Joey Gutierrez from Agents of SHIELD for being a very normal person who happens to be gay.

I can’t speak for shows like Sens8 because I don’t watch it and I’d like to go into the topic of bisexuality, except there are many other blogs out there that will cover the topic.

You’re probably thinking “what are you bitching about? Society has taken huge leaps to be normal with you and you’re still not happy? Why can’t you be happy with the gay characters out there? You’re sounding like GLAAD!” And my reason for bitching is because I’m not the gay stereotype. One of the reasons why I was uncomfortable with my sexuality when I realized what I was was because I couldn’t relate to the gay stereotype I saw on tv from age ten to thirteen. At the time my primary source of entertainment was anime though and although homosexuality was still toned down to “close friendship” ( and in some cases ‘cousins’) in the US adaptions, I realized what those relations were. I couldn’t become fully okay with myself until I met an adult gay male who didn’t have anything stereotypical about him aside from his voice. No flashy clothing, no sassy attitude, no desire to go clubbing, no abs or muscles to look at (not all stereotypes are bad things), just a regular plain adult who happened to be gay.

A Small Snippet of my Teens/YA Life

This adult is my first love and former boyfriend who is still a very dear person to me (I’m not entirely over him). He opened my eyes to more issues and in a sense agreed with what I hoped for in the future where being gay didn’t instantly define what I am and completely change who I am to someone as soon as they found out. First he showed me what Yaoi was, I freaked out significantly because I had presumed that because I was gay there was no way I could have sex and would die a virgin. He also told me there’s such a thing as Gay Day at Disney parks where gay couples and families could go and be normal. I liked the idea, but me being an idealist hoped that one day Gay Day wouldn’t be needed anymore and I could go to a Disney park with my partner on any regular old day.

He also eventually showed me Battlestar Galactica and Caprica that had what I had wanted in US television; gays doing cool stuff without being a stereotype. It did kind of suck that in BSG the gay character became a villain and the gay character on Caprica was a trained mobster assassin who killed in very bloody ways. Prior to being exposed to Battlestar Galactica though and through the exposure to Yaoi I did start reading more manga with more LGBT couples and gay men who weren’t stereotypes. I really liked it! It made me dream of moving to Japan just so I can be seen as a normal person (in a sense).

I was also exposed to the television show Queer as Folk, and although it was interesting, I’m not really one for raunchy stuff on tv.

Writing

When I graduated highschool I wanted to write YA, to this day I only have two completed books. They’re awful and should not be read by anyone because so much of it makes me want to cringe. I am in the process of rewriting said stories though. It wasn’t intentional, but I made two characters that were gay when I was doing a fanfic of Dead Like Me. The story eventually evolved into something completely different and even now as I’m rewriting it it has evolved into it’s own universe. The generally story is a Christian gay boy hoping and praying for his atheist boyfriend to wake up from his coma.

I’m still working on this story and many others, but there’s a multitude of gay and straight characters in them.

To finish this blog I’ll leave a song and the fictional lgbt character I relate to most; Pearl from Steven Universe.

 

Thoughts on Will Grayson Will Grayson

Just in time for school I am back after a summer of a dry spell concerning books! I actually wanted to avoid reading Will Grayson Will Grayson after being disappointed with John Green’s other books and hadn’t read any works by David Levithan. However my interest was sparked when a friend of mine (well let’s be honest the internet) mentioned it is an LGBT story.

I must say I was very satisfied. The gimmick of this story is about two teenagers named Will Grayson and their sucky lives and the different perspective both of them One Will is gay with depression and the other is introverted, but has a best friend who is gay.

Spoilers from this point on, please do not read if you don’t want to be spoiled. 

This story actually reminded me of myself in highschool, to the point where I was crying a few times (care to guess which Will I can relate to?) As stated above the two Wills are the same yet different; the first Will comes from a fairly well off family since both his mother and father are surgeons while the second Will lives with only his mother in a lower income household and suffers from clinical depression.

Both Wills eventually meet after a cruel prank by a character named Mona leads the second Will to Chicago in hopes of meeting his online crush. This results in the gay Will to meet Tiny and become his boyfriend. Gay Will’s life changes in ways that he slowly becomes more open to his friends and loved ones including coming out to his mother and coming out to his friends at school and meeting a new friend (who is also gay.)

Straight Will meanwhile struggles with his desire to be indifferent and not wanting to have any form of change in his life and Tiny’s life based musical and his feelings towards a girl named Jane.

One of the things I like alot about this book is that despite being significantly different people with different problems, both Wills can easily relate to each other and talk to each other about their problems and be open about their experiences (all in just three conversations).

I also like that John Green and David Lavithan chose to not make the parents an obstacle that they must overcome. As soon as Gay Will comes out to his mother and begins to be more honest with her she’s very supportive of him and willing to listen to Will about his depression and relationship troubles.  Straight Will also has supportive parents despite not having too many opportunities to be present in his life due to their line of work. S!Will’s dad even compares Will to a yacht and as being very precious to them.

All in all I was very satisfied with Will Grayson Will Grayson and give it five cat’s in boxes out of five.